Monday, May 3, 2010

In Memoriam

This picture was taken of Meghan in January of this year, shortly after she found out the cancer had spread.  Sadly, three months later, she was gone.
July 15, 1981 - April 27, 2010

Adam and Meghan were married in a private civil ceremony at her home in Petrolia, Canada on March 28, 2010.  Her funeral was held at St Philip's Catholic Church on April 30.  It was filled to capacity.  There must have been over 400 people there.  The service began with "It Is Well With My Soul".  Then Adam carried the urn with Meghan's ashes down the aisle.  He was one of six who spoke about Meghan.


Here is what he said:


Live Harder

I think all of us are obviously reeling with the loss of Meghan.  There is an emptiness left by her that I know I'll never fill.  I don't think Meghan and I met for her benefit, we met for mine.  I learned so much from her in the past three years, invaluable lessons that speak volumes about who she is and what she meant to those around her.


Her family was without question the most important part of her life.  I've never met a girl more proud of who her father is and what he has done in his life.  The close friendship and trust she shares with her mother is something most of us will only be able to wish for.  And the utmost level of respect and adoration she has for her brother makes me want to be a better man in order to be included in those ranks.  She holds every single member of her family in the highest regards.  She is so, so immensely proud to be part of the Bradley/Baker clan.


Just the same, I've never been more proud to be a Warner, and so, so proud that Meghan is a Warner, than I am of these past two years while going through this journey with Meghan.


And that the first and most important lesson Meghan taught me.  Your family and friends are the best things you have, treasure them.  When there is trouble you circle your wagons, stay near and do everything you can to fight.


And that the second.  You fight.  You fight for the things you want, the things that are important to you and you never, ever give up.


And thats the third.  Live.  Some of us aren't given a lot of time here, so live and make an impact.  Do important things and affect people positively.


And the last is ongoing.  Learn.  Never stop learning.  There are lessons taught in everything, everywhere through everyone.  Don't let them fall on deaf ears.  Be connected and in the words of one of Meghan's best friends, "Cherish every moment."


The light that burns twice as bright burns for half as long- and you have burned so very, very brightly.

14 comments:

  1. So very sorry for your loss.

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  2. There are few among us fortunate enough to journey into death as Meghan did. She lived every moment. I mean really lived every moment, and revealed to others how important grace is in accepting our fates.

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  3. Adams' eulogy brought tears to my eyes. Out of his pain came words for all of us to live by. Thank you for sharing this with your blog followers. May your faith in Christ comfort and sustain you through this difficult time.

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  4. I did not know Megan and hardly know you but know that Megan has achieved her ultimate goal and that she has eternal happiness in heaven with her Maker. May we all learn from her life.
    Bob & Judy

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  5. We will continue to remember the family in our prayers. Thanks for the great post, it's very true.

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  6. Adam’s eulogy is beautiful, and words we should all live by. Thank you for sharing this with us. Your families continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.

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  7. She was a beautiful woman, such a sad story. My heart breaks for Adam. Sorry for your loss.

    Chris

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  8. We continue to pray for your family in this time of loss. How blessed your family is to have had Megan to be a part of it. And, even though we never met her, we feel so blessed to feel like we knew her! What a beautiful young lady. Heaven grows sweeter every day!!

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  9. Beautiful...both the eulogy and Meghan. Our thoughts and prayers are still with all of you as I'm sure there will still be some tough times ahead. Hang in there.

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  10. I am so sadden to hear this news... My heart aches for you and your family... I know Meghan made a huge mark in your life and she will be remembered by all of us. Take care my friends
    Donna

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  11. Adam's words about his bride are a real treasure to her family and to you all. You have raised an incredible man, Randy and Pam. May Meghan rest in peace with our Lord.

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  12. Randy and Pam...thank you for sharing Adams thoughts about Meghan. I wish I could have met her. Her picture is beautiful and I know from her blog and the many comments that she was just as beautiful on the inside. Thanks for sharing Adam's thoughts and words. They are so true.

    May God comfort each of you as you deal with Meghan's passing the giant hole in your hearts.

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  13. what a lovely tribute to your dear daughter-in-law..no words spoken can take away the pain that your family must feel at this time. thanks for sharing this very private moment.

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  14. Thank you for sharing your sorrow with us. Continued prayers are going out to you and your family. How lucky you all where to have had Meghan in your lives.
    Arlene

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